Wednesday, May 07, 2008

Crying Men

Not too long ago, I became aware of a photography exhibit by the English artist Sam Taylor-Wood

The exhibit consisted of a collection of photographs - in color and black and white - of famous men crying.

Taylor-Wood arranged with these actors’ agents for them to participate in a photographic project - but the actors were unaware of subject's theme. When each actor arrived for the photo shoot, they were simply asked to cry.

In my work, being vulnerable, being sad, and crying are hard things to do. Even harder for men. When this exhibition was turned into a book, I had to buy it. It now rests on the bookcase in my office for anyone to view.

Kinda helps take away the stigma of being emotional, I think.

For more, link here

Pictured are Laurence Fishburne, Robert Downey Jr. & Tim Roth


Saur♥Kraut said...

How FANTASTIC. Thanks for letting us know about it!

Admin said...

these are excellent! i love them all, but especially the Tim Roth photo. i would love to see the entire collection...

Cate Subrosa said...

That really is great. Thanks for sharing :)

shrink on the couch said...

A very welcome, necessary book. Thanks for letting us know about it. I just wish it was "real men" crying instead of acting. But hey, we gotta start somewhere.

Kahless said...

The Laurence Fishburne photo really jumped out to me.

Great idea to have a book of men crying.

Bar L. said...

I love this idea for a book and will have to check it out. I bet a lot of people will pull it off your shelf, I know I would. I may have to get it for myself....

Angel Chasse said...

Hey Dr Deb,
Thanks for reminding us of this one.. everyone is human!! And all humans have emotions! :)

I saw some tulips and daffodils in bloom today. Hope you are getting to enjoy spring as well!


HP said...

I love the concept of this book. It just loses a little something for me in that it's just celebrities asked to cry.

Having said that, the photo of Robert Downey Jr. just made my morning..but that has nothing at all to do with crying :)

PTC said...

I never cry in front of people. I hate showing my emotions. I even hate crying at funerals, though I do and I can't stop. I hate it. I feel so stupid!

Anonymous said...

These are brilliant photos. Thank you.

jenji said...

Love this artist's work.

Also, there is a regular feature "In Character" in Vogue magazine wherein certain celebrities are asked to evoke a particular emotion on command.

It can be quite interesting to see the reactions.

Here's a link to one:

be well,

Sonnie-Dee said...

Its a great idea, so many men force themselves to cover up their emotions and often it comes out in another way such as violence. Perhaps seeing people they admire crying they will realise it is ok. Here in New Zealand it would be great to see photos of the all blacks or league players crying...

PTC said...

Actually, I never really cry ever...rarely.

Dr. Deb said...

Dear Saur,
I think it's a great collection with a great message.

Dear Vesper,
Click the link and you can see several more from the collection.

Dear Guilty,
She's talented.

Dear PHD,
Gotta start somewhere, it right. There's some controversy with the collection being that the subjects are actors. Are they really crying, are they acting, etc.

Dear Kahless,
In the book, there are little summaries of the photo experience. LF was photographed in his own home and wept intensely.

Dear Barbara,
Sadly, it is out of print, but you can get it should you want. A bit pricey. Maybe it's a a local library to see for free.

Dear HP,
Robert DJ is one of my favorite shots, as is one of Ed Harris. So many to see. Robert DJ and Sam Taylor Wood like to collaborate alot. There is a video of them renacting the Blessed Mother and Jesus in the famous pose. You tube it should you like. And yes, having actors cry does take a bit away, but many in the collection were able to share their anguish very openly.

Dear Palmtree,
I used to avoid crying in public too when I was younger. Sometimes it is hard to show such vulnerablility.

Dear Traci,
I love the collection too.

Dear Jeni,
I didn't know about that in Vogue magazine. Will definitely check it out!

Dear S'Onnie,

Dear Palmtree,
It's ok.

Marj aka Thriver said...

Beautiful portraits. I'm really working on getting more in touch with my feelings, so this is a good message for me right now.

I think an artistic depiction such as this really reminds us of the beauty of being human...tears and all! Thanks!

Ian Lidster said...

I find it very difficult to cry. I can get misty in movies, or even with certain pieces of classical (especially) music. But, in real life I tend to assume a stoic stance, even at funerals. I can think of many reasons why, many of which go back to childhood. I cried not at all when my parents died, but misted up completely when I had to have a family cat put down.

Tha BossMack TopSoil said...

Dudes like me can't cry infront of women in tha Ghetto, tis a sign of weakness. It must be done privately.

Tracy said...

Wonderful! It is good someone put a book like this together. Thank you for sharing.

CrackerLilo said...

You know, you'd think that I am a bit beyond this as a bi woman married to another woman (who's on the butch side, too), but I have a hard time with men crying. Must be the redneck in me. My father didn't cry when he dropped a car engine on his foot! I still think, "It's okay if someone died or he's mortally wounded, but over a movie or something? Please."

Attitudes like mine and the ones I grew up with are why that compilation was needed, probably.

Dr. Deb said...

Dear Marj,
I love this work too.

Dear Ian,
I, too, have never cried more than when I had to put down my beloved pet(s). I get it.

Dear Bosssmack,
Must be hard to keep so much in sometimes.

Dear Mysti,
There are several Crying Men collections. Three, I think.

Dear Cracker,
I totally understand. I think how we are raised and what we see shapr who we are.

SeaSpray said...

Great pics! So moving and they cause me to want to help them.

I have rarely seen a man cry but when I have it moves me profoundly.

I didn't see but only heard my uncle (I lived with him and my aunt) break down and cry twice. The first time when he got the news his son was killed and the second time when he thought he killed a man on the job. It was mechanical failure of a huge crane but he retired early after that. If I had seen him cry...

I think it is good for everyone to cry and I think it releases toxins too.

The 1st pic causes me to wonder if his emotions are in a knot because of how he intertwines his legs.

I'd like to see/read the book. Thanks for sharing it.

Also...I hope you don't mind but I linked to you and I revised the bubblewrap post because I thought about bubble wrap therapy. :)

Awake In Rochester said...

Your mentioned in my latest post. Now excuse me. I need to go have a good cry. ;o)

United We Lay said...

Wow! That's really cool. I think I'll show this to my students. My boys have an incredibly hard time expressing emotion and it so often comes out in anger and violence.

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Alison said...

Beautiful. Will definitely buy this if I go back into private practice. Cheers, A.

Anonymous said...

I ran across your site while looking for another topic related to men and tears. I am pleased to see this post. Although it is dated, I thought you might enjoy a short video I just did on men's tears. Title: Do men cry.

I am an author, speaker, envirinmentalist, etc. And have have nature/philosophy website, which is named after my up coming book: "Naked in Eden: Ancient Memories in the Australian Rainforest. (About my life in the jungles there when I was younger.)

Here is a link to my website:

And here is the link the video posted on my blog: I could be wrong but I think you might enjoy it.

I am encouraged by your post and that you put the book in your office so that clients can see it. That is a gift to them.

Thank you,
Robin Easton