Monday, May 18, 2009

A Life of "Weisure"


Seems that the line dividing work and leisure is thinning. More people are finding themselves dealing with work issues beyond the so-called the 7 day a week boundary.

This trend is being called Weisure Time - a phrase that blends the words leisure and work literally as well as figuratively. Some who live the weisure life don't mind the blurring of roles while others struggle with it. Sociologist, Dalton Conley, who coined the phrase Weisure Time, thinks that the trend is a negative one. "We lose our so-called private sphere. There's less relaxing time to be our so-called backstage selves when we're always mingling work and leisure."

I have to say that I keep a pretty tight lid on the separating of work and play. I balance my clinical practice and my relaxation time well.

What about you?


22 comments:

CrackerLilo said...

Oh, ick! That sounds like my mom down to the ground! My brother and I worry about her, but she's even more tense when she tries to just rest!

Me, work is what I do so I can play, and I have no trouble separating 99 percent of the time. (Decorating and furniture refinishing, which I have done for money, almost never feel like work at all. Maybe if I did those full-time, I'd experience more "weisure.") However, my leading personality type, according to the Personality Self-Portrait book, is actually titled "Leisurely."

phd in yogurtry said...

I'm with you, Dr. Deb. I try very hard to keep my practice at bay and give myself the leisure time I need. This is the first I've heard the term, Weisure. As usual you do a great job of keeping us informed!

Carie said...

Ken works a 10 hour day then when he comes home he is on call constantly...its hard, when ever we go anywhere he has to answer every call, email or whatever...makes family time hard. When we go to diner and that phone dings you can see all of us act differently, itmakes me mad, mad that even this simple time togather is ruined, Ash looks upset, she hates when he is texting ot talking on the phone when we are togather, and he looks tired...its so hard on all of us, his boss is now sharing the duty, each will have a week on call then the other and they switch, it helps a little...but Ken is drained, hes so far pass tired

Dr. Deb said...

I think kids growing up now have done so in a mutli-tasking world, so this weisure style is not so unusual. That doesn't mean it's a good thing or can be avoided. But for us older peeps, it definitely is a new trend.

Xmichra said...

I am usually on weisure time all the time I am away from work. It's sick really. But it's me.

Being on maternity leave has helped me a little, because the responcibility of my position is on another person for the time being. But in the back of my head I am thinking of events etc that are coming, and wondering if tha person is handling it the way i would... and also wondering if they are doing better than I would. Mixed feelings.

Leesa said...

Interesting subject. It reminds me of Charles Shultz. The day his last cartoon ran . . . he died. Some of us live to work, and some of us work to live. I think there needs to be people who are passionate about work when working, and passionate about leisure (or service or whatever floats your boat) when living.

Barbara(aka Layla) said...

I don't like mixing work and personal time but I know many people that seem to be fine with it.

Toria/Deb said...

I'd agree that few these days travel without the cell phone and/or Crackberry. I'd rather go camping without, but yes, sometimes feel lost with no internet

jumpinginpuddles said...

wer have a policy work adn home dont mix, when we shut our door at home its because we dont want work entering in, on holidays all phones are turned off and the internet used for blogs of just life stuff.

traci said...

I leave my job at work. I barely even think about it once I leave there. My husband likes to talk about work and I just don't. He gets very frustrated about that but it's simply not my focus.

Beth said...

I'm having an extremely hard time leaving work at work.

My job isn't that significant but I seem to take it all way too seriously and essentially, have made myself sick over it.

My blood pressure is way up (164/108, but my doctor isn't concerned apparently) and I'm generally feeling somewhere between totally emotional or really tense. Both at the same time if its a bad day.

To top it all off, I'm annoyed with myself for not controlling it better - its just a job andI should be able to leave it at the door.

Marie said...

Hi, Dr. Deb -

I used to have clear boundaries between my work and leisure. However, as I've gotten older (I'm in my early 40's), I have simplified my life and have made sure that I spend my time doing what I really enjoy -- and making money doing it! So, for me, the two are often blended and I wouldn't have it any other way!

- Marie (Coming Out of the Trees)
http://mmaaggnnaa.wordpress.com/

Big Brother said...

There should be limits and priorities although I will concede that it is sometimes hard. Your work shouldn't be your life. My priorities are always, family, friends and finally work. I enjoy my work but I refuse to let it rule my soul.

Lisa Marie said...

When I first started teaching there was no boundary between work and play. Work came home all the time, but now that I've settled in I have made a very good habit of leaving it at home if I can't get it done in the time I set aside. You've gotta have balance!

Judith Dagley Flaherty, L.M.F.T. said...

I agree that life is much less stressful when there is balance in each day, and I certainly agree that trying to do many things at once often creates stress and ends up being counter-productive. Tuning in to my body and what it needs helps me to naturally create balance in my days, and staying in the moment, which is the only place anything really happens, keeps me focused on whatever is happening "now." Whatever I'm doing, I'm doing, and I'm not doing anything else. The concept of "weisure" seems to address a lack of commitment to whatever one has chosen to be doing! Regarding the need to create "boundaries" to enforce separation between work and play, that sounds like its based on a belief system in which work is dangerous, something that wants to swallow us up! To me, my work as a psychotherapist IS play--its just a different kind of play than other things I do in my life. Reading your blog made me realize my own perspectives and experiences of the issues you discussed, which I appreciated, and decided to pass on. Thanks for stimulating the process! (By the way, I have a weekly blog, too, called Blogging for Change, which can be found on my website. Please feel free to read it, and leave your comments, too!)
All the best,
Judith

Awake In Rochester said...

Hey doc, turn over your cell phone! ;)

jumpinginpuddles said...

i was just thinking about this blog again today and wondering if the reason people work in play time is because they havent been taught to play and therfor work is the only avenue they know.

Also i wonder if its a form of escapism if you are busy then life doesnt touch you as much as if you relax and have time ti mull things over.

Jade said...

Interesting post as always Deb. I have to say that at the beginning of my "professional career" I had a tough time balancing work and play, but now that I have a little time under my belt I'm finding it easier to hit that 5pm mark of the day and let work stay where it's at.
It can still be challanging bit I'm much better at it.

Bo... said...

As a nurse, I was always able to leave my job behind, except when I was a road nurse and on call all the time. I did live with a doctor one time who was forever on call--- I can remember plenty of nights when he would have to answer the phone at all hours and I'd groggily mumble something rude like: "Oh, give her some demerol and phenergan and she'll be happy...."

Health Psych said...

I don't like the idea of 'Weisure' at all. I separate out the two and I'm working on getting Practical Man to do so also. His work is very intrusive, his colleagues don't respect his annual leave days at all and call him as and when they wish...but, really, he has to enforce the boundaries.

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Helene said...

Thanks for your contribution to Take Charge of Your Health Care Carnival. I have always found that one needs to get away from the work routine every once in a while. You definitely need some R & R.