Thursday, November 18, 2010

Suicide "Survivor" Awareness Day: 11/20


Every year on the Saturday before Thanksgiving, the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention sponsors National Survivors of Suicide Day - reaching out to thousands of people who have lost a loved one to suicide. This Saturday, November 20, 2010, is their 12th year of raising awareness and providing support.

Over 230 simultaneous conferences for survivors of suicide loss will take place throughout the U.S. and across the world. An amazing network of healing conferences is available for those who have survived the tragedy of suicide loss. Connecting on this day allows survivors to know that they are not alone in this experience. And perhaps more important than anything else, research has shown that survivors of suicide contribute significantly in better understanding suicide and its prevention. There is great power in the personal narrative.

To find a city worldwide where a conference is being held link here and here

Read more on suicide outreach and about the 10 common myths about suicide here



16 comments:

Kelly said...

Is there such a thing as an attempted suicide survivor day?

I think there should be.

For the people that tried, but did not actually end their life?

Angeliki Bogosian said...

I read the ten myths
No 7. "An improvement in emotional state means the risk of suicide is lowered" is a very interesting point and a very common misconception.

CrackerLilo said...

Like Kelly, I want to see the day for those of us who attempted suicide, but didn't make it happen. (And it should be traditional to give the "failure" in your life chocolate and "Glad You're Still Here!" iTunes cards, while we're at it.)

I've heard from people who survived a loved one's suicide, though. They tend to blame themselves and wonder what they missed or could have done differently. I can't imagine being in that situation, and I'm so glad I didn't leave anyone in my life in that position. Suicidal people are selfish--this doesn't mean you're a terrible person, but that you're so blinded by your own pain and despair that you tend to forget what an impact you can have on others. If you think you and the things you do don't matter, you become oblivious to your own capacity to hurt. Even now, while I'm not suicidal anymore, I have to mentally slap myself when I get into a despairing, "Who gives a fat rat's ass what I do?" mindstate, because I've learned how badly I can hurt people when I get into that.

The timing of this day is good, too. This is the start of the "empty chair" season, when you realize that people should be around and aren't.

I hope that everyone whose lives are touched by suicide--the survivors of the "successes" and those of us who are happy to be "failures"--finds peace.

Dr. Deb said...

Kelly,
I was once told by another suicide attempt survivor that "everyday" is a day of gratitude. But I know what you mean. I think there should be an awareness day for surviving an attempt too.

Angeliki,
I worry most when someone I know or am working with demonstrates an improved emotional and physical state. It is, indeed, a most cautionary time....and one that is often misunderstood. Thanks for commenting on it,

Cracker,
Hey friend. I have to get to visiting my friend's blogs. I'm way overdue. I'm with you and Kelly too. We need a day that honors that too.

Dreaming again said...

The only sign that my Dad exhibited (in hindsight) was the improvement of mood .. he'd made a decision ...

Lost a friend to suicide just recently. (found out wednesday)

She was very special to me, so much so, my oldest son was named after her. She was the first person, aside from my step father, who made me feel like I might have some worth as a person ... I wish she had known how much she was worth

Dr. Deb said...

Dreaming,
Losing your Dad is so tragic, and now losing a friend is just beyond words.

Wanda's Wings said...

My sister loss her son to suicide. After 10 years the pain still runs deep. I'm with Kelly about an attempted suicide survivor day. It is good for all to know the signs and protect ourselves and those we love.

purple cupcakes said...

I am so glad i lived but i know i am one of the fortunate ones given a second chance. Life for us now is amaing but we never belittle or forget teh terrible trauma we felt when we attempted to take our own life.

Awake In Rochester said...

Sounds like a good idea. I imagine that some people can have a lot of guilt and anger over losing a loved one that way.

Awake In Rochester said...

I'm trying write a post and looking for the psychological term for "control freak". Someone with a my "way or highway" attitude. I can’t seem to find it on google. Any ideas? There must be a nicer way of saying it.

lightfeather said...

Bless you Dr. Deb for the work you do! Thank you too for buying my book and your wonderful comments. I am so glad you liked it and are spreading the love to your niece!

Tracy said...

I was on Kenju's blog and was intrigued by your blog. Thank you for posting on such a sensitive topic. I am one who survived two suicide attempts and I agree that EVERY day is a special day...I know this because I have an 11 year old son who has blessed my life and if I had been successful, well, he wouldn't be in this world...what a joyful reminder that life is too precious to end!

Lilly said...

That much information presented by this blog, I hope they continue in the same form and submit articles on health care.

Casdok said...

Thank you Dr Deb for posting this.

Molly said...

Thank you for posting this, I am a suicide survivor and didn't know there was a day for awareness. I am considering doing more outreach for other survivors and offering reiki sessions to help them manage their grief and emotions. See my blog for information about reiki for grief.

LuciaS said...

As a suicide attempt survivor, I am very serious about this subject.

I also think there should be a Suicide Attempt Survivor Day.

Please think before you act. You can have a very bright future. I speak from experience.